What you can do in times of failure, How you can motivate yourself? “The winner of the battle between the two of you is usually the barometer of your success. The ‘you’ who wants to slow down, give up, or take it easy and the ‘you’ who decides to fight complacency as a barrier to your success.” Widener Chris opined.
I’ve never encountered someone who doesn’t occasionally find himself simply not wanting to do the things they need and want to accomplish in all of my dealings with people, regardless of their level of success. It’s human nature to find yourself not wanting to do anything, even though we have many things we need to do and even want to accomplish. And the ability to choose to find the inner motivation that will enable us to overcome our cynicism and move forward in action is what sets us apart in life. At those vital times when we are making essential judgments about what we will do, some will succeed while others will maintain the status quo.
What To Do When You Don’t Feel Successful
I find that I have to deal with this issue frequently. Therefore, the following success ideas aren’t just “wishful thinking,” but tried and proper methods for getting yourself to keep going even when you don’t feel like it.
Examine Whether Or Not You Require A Break
This is usually the first thing I do when I don’t want to accomplish something. The reality is that we often work pretty hard, and our tiredness is a way of signaling that we need to take a break. And this is where intellectual honesty is required because even when we don’t require a break, our minds continue to insist on one! However, we all need rest from time to time. Let me give you an example. I don’t enjoy working out, but I do it virtually every day.
Before heading to the club, I sometimes thought about how I didn’t feel like going. Most of the time, I’m simply lazy. However, there are moments when I understand that my body requires rest. So, now and then, I’ll take a one- or two-day workout break. There are two advantages to this: One, my body has a chance to rest and repair. After a day or two, I start to miss my workout and look forward to going to the gym again.
Other examples: Imagine you’re a salesperson who has been calling clients nonstop for the past week. You get up one morning and decide you don’t want to do it. So, for the morning, take a rest. Read the newspaper in a coffee shop. Hit some golf balls at the driving range. Take a break, and then get right back to work!
It All Begins With A Small Step
I’ve reached the point in my training routine where a typical day consists of 30 to 45 minutes of aerobic exercise and approximately 30 minutes of weight lifting. I’ll devote time to the gym and do a lesser workout when I don’t feel like leaving the house and heading to the gym. Rather than opting out, I’ll commit to 15 to 20 minutes of aerobic activity and 15 to 30 minutes of weight lifting. It’s also beneficial for two reasons. For starters, I get some exercise that day. Second, it prevents me from falling into a surrender pattern when I don’t feel like taking action.
Other examples: Perhaps you’re a writer who doesn’t feel like writing today. Instead of spending the entire day writing, resolve to at least outline a couple of new articles. At the very least, you’ll finish these, and you might even discover that you’ve gotten yourself into a writing mood.
Deviate From Your Usual Regimen
I’ve found that walking on the treadmill for 30 to 45 mins every day puts me in top shape and burns the most calories. Now, I’m going to be completely honest with you. I find treadmill running to be exceedingly tedious. I can usually persuade myself to do it, but there are times when I need to break up my routine. So, instead of spending 30 to 45 minutes on the treadmill, I’ll divide my cardio workout regimen into several sections. I’ll do ten to fifteen minutes on the treadmills, ten to fifteen minutes on the reclining cycle, five to ten minutes on the rowing machine, five to ten minutes on the stair stepper, and then five to ten minutes on the treadmill again. I’m still getting my exercise, but I’m not as bored.
Other examples: Imagine you’re working in construction and you’ve been working on the plumbing for a week, and it’s starting to get boring. Today is not the day to do your plumbing! Go to the office and put a frame around it.
When I don’t feel like doing something, I convince myself that I’ll treat myself if I finish the work I need to finish. For example, I might persuade myself that if I get up and head to the gym, I can cut five to ten minutes off my treadmill work out and spend those minutes in the hot tub. Hey, it’s functional!
Other scenarios: Perhaps you’re a mortgage broker who wants to sleep in. Tell yourself that once the following three mortgages are paid off, you’ll go to the fair with your kids or the movies with your spouse. Perhaps you’ll treat yourself to a night out with old buddies.
Re-Establish A Link Between The Action And Pleasure Rather Than Pain
We humans, according to psychologists, tend to associate every activity with either pleasure or suffering. Tony Robbins has carried this concept even farther in recent times with what he refers to as Neural Affiliations. To put it more simply, we link every action to either happiness or pain. When we lack motivation, we are most likely connecting the movement with pain rather than pleasure.
When I consider not going to the gym on a specific day, I usually associate attending and working out with not having enough time, the agony of training, weight lifting, or the monotony of a long run on a treadmill. Reminding myself that if I go in and do my workout, I will feel better about myself, reduce weight, and live longer is one way to re-associate. This is something I enjoy doing. When we start playing those kinds of tapes in our heads, it’s like we’re watching a movie; we discover that our internal motivational energy has been released, causing us to change our minds about the action we are considering.
Other examples: Perhaps you’re a counselor who despises spending the day listening to people. Your first thought maybe that it’ll be dull or that you’ll be stuck inside when it’s sunny outside. We discover that our internal motivational force has been activated, causing us to shift our perspective on the activity we consider.
Other examples: Perhaps you’re a therapist who despises spending the day listening to people. Your first thought maybe that it’ll be dull or that you’ll be stuck indoors while the weather is nice.
It’s unexpected but easy to get started on anything when you don’t feel like it.
Edward W. Smith, a life coach, author, and TV show host specializing in rapid suggestions on how to move your life forward even faster offers the following advice. The “Act As If” approach is the key to getting started on something when you don’t feel like it.
You use this strategy to make it appear like you want to do something even if you don’t. You go through the motions of doing what you’re trying to avoid while being cheerful and enthusiastic about it. While you are starting to do the activity, you amplify your good emotions. Your body “tricks” your mind into believing you genuinely want to complete the training, and your mind shifts to a more positive outlook on the assignment. This also helps with basic mood swings. You would stand up, march about the room with your head high, smiling, signing, and acting happy if you were in a poor mood and wanted to be in a good mood. You’ll be in a pleasant mood in just three minutes.
There are times in every individual’s career, whether they are amateurs or professionals when they are not motivated to continue doing what they are doing in their career. Perhaps they are ill or have had some family or personal problems, but they do not want to continue on that career path. Unfortunately, the business has to move on as scheduled no matter what happens. The onus is left on you to find the inner strength to continue or trace your step back. It is never too late to start again. It is advised you do what makes you happy and satisfied at all times. The tips and practical examples treated in the write-up should be a very great companion for anyone in the same junction in their career paths.