The thought of a midlife crisis in their forties seems to be ingrained in many people’s minds. At this stage of our life, we will be sadder and less satisfied with our existence. But psychologically, things tend to improve.

Maturity is often considered the pillar of existence. Once you have reached the top of the hill, looking across the mountain, you will feel depressed. Writer Victor Hugo has a saying: “40 is the sunset of youth, but 50 is the youth of old age”.

The idea of ​​a night plunging into the hearts of those in their forties – or they were desperately avoiding it, the implants hanging from their heads in the wind of a convertible car – was ingrained in everybody’s minds. Many studies show that most of us believe in the so-called “midlife crisis”, also called the “four-week crisis” or “midlife crisis”, and nearly half of all adults of fifty years old said he had experienced it. So it seems to exist. But does the midlife crisis truly exist?

There is strong evidence supporting the idea that life satisfaction levels decline by the age of four weeks. Census surveys often reveal that women and men in their forties are least satisfied with their lives. According to a study conducted by HILDA (Household, Income and Labor Dynamics in Australia) of Australia, at the age of 45, satisfaction is the lowest, and the Australian Bureau of Statistics indicates that the age group 45-54 is bleak.

Middle age can confuse some people, but there is insufficient evidence to conclude that this is a time of widespread depression and depression.

Psychologically, things tend to improve. If there is a crisis of the age of four weeks, a pessimism, deviation in how to assess your fate, is also understandable. In this stage of life, our attention shifts from time to time, and this requires a process of adjustment.

When is midlife?

There are obviously many reasons to be dissatisfied with life when you cross the half-life threshold. But does this make the midlife crisis a reality, or is it just an intuitive feeling of nothing more? There are many reasons to doubt this issue.

On the one hand, it is difficult to say when a midlife crisis will occur. The concept of middle age is not fixed, changing as we get older. One study found that young people thought it ranged from the early 30s to 50s, while those aged 60 and older thought it started from the late 30s to the mid-50s.

As part of a study conducted in the United States, one-third of people at the age of seven weeks of age were identified as midlife people. This study corroborates many other studies that have found that mature people tend to feel ten years younger than their birth certificate.

Whatever the definition of middle age, do crises specifically focus on this period? Another study proved that no. Instead, it points out that self-declared crises become more common as we get older. Of the study participants in their 20s, 44% noted they had experienced such a crisis, compared to 49% in the 30s and 53% in the 40s.

In another study, the earlier the participants were, the more likely the midlife crisis was to occur later. People over the age of 60 recall that they experienced a midlife crisis at age 53, while those in their 40s thought that the midlife crisis occurred at age 38.

Therefore, we can assume that there is no specific crisis at age 40, but instead, the crisis occurred before or after the age of 40.

Midlife crisis Stages

– Start a crisis on health issues

This is entirely natural because the older we get, the more we care about our health – including any “signs” of disease risk. We are intelligent and rational people, so we understand that the “eternity” of life can be calmed – at least a little bit – by living healthier every day.

Therefore, it is not surprising that the mid-life crisis often starts with constant thoughts about physical and mental health.

– Compare myself with friends and others 

Many of us are often driven by the perception of success. Like a barometer (a device that measures the pressure of the atmosphere to predict the weather), similar people tend to compare themselves – money, clothes, cars, houses. … – with their friends, including colleagues and even relatives. Especially in middle age, people use career standards, achievements, and other measures of success to assess their current position in society. When we realize this, we will live a life full of thoughts of “comparing and feeling extremely low.”

– Obsessed with the name “lose weight” and take care of beauty 

It is good to want to lose weight or have a beautiful body, regardless of age. For people who have experienced a midlife crisis, this often happens, when there is a feeling of unfortunate remorse about something. We will begin to think, “What can I do?” or “How can I be better?”. These questions are widespread and especially for those who have gone through a transition between stages. And when entering the period after the age of 35, the need for beauty care seems to become an infectious disease.

– Self-esteem increases

As mentioned above, mid-life crises consist of comparing yourself to others. At the same time, we do the same to ourselves, doubting our abilities, wanting to change but not being ready to do it, feeling uncertain about everything, and not clearly defining: “Where is the great potential? his most? Can we recognize our true talents? Where do we meet failure? Is it too late to change or not?”.

The hypothesis for this phenomenon is that young people are often optimistic and hope to increase significantly when things in life go smoothly. Young people often believe they will “surpass the average “, who are lucky to own a top job, a happy marriage.

But as we age, things often aren’t as we expected. We may not climb up the career ladder as quickly as we want or gradually find that prestige and high income are no longer our own expected needs. At this point, high expectations for the future are revised down. Middle age now becomes a time of double suffering: the disappointment of formation and the desire to disappear.

– Want to quit – even if it’s a good job 

Ask everyone who is working for a living … going to work is really tough. Only a handful of people are blessed enough to get the job they want without having to spend too much effort, pressure, or busy. However, this is an exception because not everyone is so.

According to the survey, when we reach the age of 40-50, we hate the job, the doubts about ourselves, and the reasons for not wanting to continue with the job will increase. This makes us even more in a crisis.

– Struggling with crisis (or similar symptoms)

According to mental health experts, the crisis rarely develops in middle age but sadly many people have experienced this. This loss – considered severe damage – leads to changes in brain chemistry. This unfortunate series of events can lead to depression or similar symptoms. They feel their own identity is lost.

– Overthinking about death /”purpose of life.” 

Naturally, death is inevitable; whether you want to mention it or not … some people even choose to ignore it. And the fact is that the older we get, the closer we are to death. The term “mid-life” implies that we have reached what may lie “in the middle” of life. Unsurprisingly, people who experience a midlife crisis are more likely to overthink about death and the “purpose of life.”

– Extravagant shopping without a plan

This happens more often and more than you think. Research shows that at least one-third of men aged 40 to 59 spend extravagantly, especially cars. And women are no exception, but mostly they invest in beauty care and plastic surgery.

– Unexpected behavior change

One of the apparent signs of this age group is behavior change, unpredictable and especially sudden. At a dance club for people in their 45s, they might want to raise their eyebrows, for example. Even if they previously committed not to do or never behave like this, it’s no surprise that at this age, they can do it.

– When someone says, “you are in a middle-age crisis.”

This is a rare occurrence, but if it does, the chances are good that you are actually in that situation. Sometimes, outsiders often have the right view of your psychological and physical changes that you may not even know … and most likely, it’s essential. Crisis-stricken people are often hurt, lost, and seek answers. They are desperate to know what could have happened. Sometimes, all they need is someone who can evaluate it honestly and accurately.

The power of midlife crisis symptoms

So the crisis might not be so related to age. The symptoms can be taken as a ‘wake-up call’. All midlife crisis symptoms have a sense of unfulfilled potential. And then there is a basic choice: Do I settle? Or do I step up?

And here is an opportunity to not settle by the means of gratitude and mediocrity. In our Black Sheep Community, we stimulate people to step up! Step up your game! Go and fulfill your potential. That is what it is there for!

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