The word emotional reasoning stemmed from Aron’s usage back in 1970 in the field of cognitive therapy. His influence and being a founder of cognitive therapy made him originate from this word. Emotional reasoning refers to cognitive distortion that stemmed out of piles of negative thoughts over time.
The feelings and emotions over the cloud and surpass the rational thought process. For this reason, the sufferer denies the actual reality of events and measure daily happenings around his/her emotional assumptions. The personal beliefs and the state of being feelings oriented invalidate the possibility of expecting the events’ brightness. Thus, emotional reasoning originates from the negative self-talk over some time. It destroys one’s ability to think rationally.
How emotional reasoning gets adopted in human’s negative traits?
Emotional reasoning originates with the continuous fallouts and happening of adverse events in one’s life. The person measures and predicts his/her future events to be darker and gloomy than reality. The sufferer’s mind mapping is stuck in the state to expect gruesome incidents and happenings in life. Some people are subjected to experience brutal treatment in childhood. This resultantly causes anguish and a sort of resentment in one’s heart. This effect eventually leads to emotional, reactionary behavior, and emotional reasoning. However, a systematic chain of negative thoughts in one’s mind results in a personal sense of human behavior.
Examples of Emotional Reasoning:
Case 1. Paul has an imaginative phobia of traveling through planes. Unfortunately, he got invited to a business conference meeting in a foreign country in an immediate effect. For this reason, he has to travel on a plane ride. Before the flight’s due date, he got involved in emotional fears and phobias traveling through the planes. He started reading about the dangers of traveling on airplanes. The risks and gruesome experiences of his reasoning material further increased his fears. Right on the due date of travel, the weather was unfair for the plane. His fears and doubts got doubled with the concerns of the weather. Though, in actual reality, the dangerous incident did not take place at all. But his emotional reasoning clouded his thoughts to think positively.
Case 2: Desi had a phobia of injections. Over time, she clouded her imaginations of taking doses through injection to be a gruesome experience ever. This habit of her negative thoughts resultantly caused emotional reasoning. All of a sudden, she got bitten by a mad dog. To get vaccinated to be safe from rabies, she has been prescribed an injection by a doctor. Her emotional reasoning and negative self talk further increased and worsened her condition. Though, the actual pain of injecting was far lesser than the imagined problem emotionally.
Possibility of brighter thoughts in both cases:
In case 1, Paul could have involved himself in reading about positive precautionary measures of plane riding rather than being involved in negative feelings and emotions. His negative emotional reasoning resultantly multiplied his miserable state of mind.
In case 2, Desi could have been remained involved in the positive Self-talk regarding the injections. This would have perhaps decreased her agony and pain of being bitten by a dog.
Is Emotional reasoning a real problem?
The apparent effects of emotional reasoning cause health, psychological, and personal issues in the sufferer’s life. It becomes problematic when it leads to beyond the limit of one’s tolerance. The enormous ill adverse effect of emotional reasoning can be seen in one’s physical health. The sufferer is subjected to feel depressed. Consecutive depression causes hormonal issues in the human body. The fight and flight response sometimes causes a nervous breakdown in adverse situations. Likewise, the human’s rational reasoning power is subjected to be diminishing with time.
Moreover, the memory is subjected to losing its potential to retain knowledge due to an immense level of fears and phobias. Additionally, as a law of attraction and direction of the universe, the emotional reasoning and negative self talk eventually translate the phobias into reality. Sometimes the sufferer misinterprets the intentions of the other person. This causes an enormous trust deficit in relations. And the truth is thus blurred by the negative range of emotions through emotional reasoning.
Signs of being a victim :
The sufferer has the following signs when he/she is victimized:
- Feelings of guilt:
The sufferer feels remorseful and guilty, though he/she hadn’t wronged somebody. The guilt within him/herself affects his/her peace of mind woefully.
- Feelings of being encircled by danger:
The sufferer of emotional reasoning feels being endangered by the unforeseen happening of incidents and events. Though, in reality, he/she might not experience catastrophic events. But his/her imaginations and fears make him/her scared of feeling danger around him/her.
- Feelings of being plotted and manipulated:
Though the relations might not have caused agony or manipulation, the sufferer of emotional reasoning feels plotted and manipulated by others. In reality, he/she might not have victimized by other’s manipulation. But his/her state of paranoia from relations cause feelings of resentment toward relations.
- Feelings of low self-esteem:
The sufferer feels low and worthless. His/her feelings of being deprived make him/her helpless and incapable of his/her perception.
How to deal with emotional reasoning?
It can be dealt with through self-introspection to overview fears, regrets, guilt, and everything. Afterward, a therapist would be highly beneficial to provide cognitive therapeutic sessions. Those sessions will be focused on convincing the sufferer to think positively. The piles of negativity will not be taken back by the therapist immediately. It will take much time in sessions to reorient the thoughts process toward positivity.
In short, emotional reasoning has a crucial ill effect on one’s health. It destroys the ability to think positively. It ruins the peace of mind. If the peace of mind has been shattered, then the sufferer adopts reactionary behavior. The reactionary behavior becomes a weakness of others to enrage him/her in normal circumstances. Therefore, emotional reasoning must be dealt with through the proper consultation of a therapist.