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Why do we need to Embrace Your Fears? We all have specific fears in life. For most of us, fear is not a concept that we deal with every day, though. Fear is not a bad thing; it is, however, occasionally a limiting factor in our lives. Yet what we fear is not always real. Many studies have shown that most people share many of the same fears. Even though they are not real, we still fear situations and environments that might hold us back from living our actual life.
Understanding what fear is, is the first step to embracing your fears. Over the years, psychological studies have shown that human beings have only two natural fears. Yes, only two! They are loud noises and falling. Have you ever had that dream where you are falling and wake up just before you hit bottom? Sure, you have. For those who have witnessed the miracle of childbirth, you might have noticed the doctor checking the baby’s reflexes by clapping their hands next to the baby. They also do a little drop test to test the falling reflexes.
When I saw this happening to my newborn son, I was a little upset with the doctor. That was until he explained to me that these are the natural reflexes or fears that all humans have. Reacting to noises and the falling sensation is how they check that your little one is fully aware of their surroundings.
So, the question then begs, where do all the other fears that we have come from? It is simple. As we grow up, we experience life in our unique way, and we develop a long list of fears. Some of them are healthy, but for the most part, they are limiting. These limiting fears are what holds us back from doing what we want to do in life. These are the fears that you must face and conquer. Embrace your fears and understand which are serving you and which are not.
Embrace Your Fears
So, you want to embrace your fears. Well, the good news is that there are 1000’s books and websites that will give you guidelines on how to do that. What I want to do today is give you just a little taste of what it would be like to embrace your fears, even the biggest ones. I am going to focus on fears that many people have but are totally unrealistic and exceptionally limiting.
According to a recent study, these are the top ten fears that hold people back in life:
- Fear of Rejection
- Fear of Uncertainty
- Fear of Something Bad Happening
- Fear of Getting Hurt
- Fear of Being Judged
- Fear of Inadequacy
- Fear of Loss of Freedom
- Fear of Change
- Fear of Loneliness
- Fear of Failure
If you look at the list of fears, how many of these are currently in your life? For many of our more “overachieving readers,” you might tick a lot of the above. But these are the fears that so many of us struggle with every day in some way or another. However, if you take a step back and look at these fears, you might start to notice something very revealing.
None of these fears are based on reality: a simple example, the fear of change. Our lives have been going through changes since the day we were born. We grow up, have friends, get more friends, friends move away, new school, new relationships, and so on and so on. Why should we be afraid of change if we go through it almost every day of our lives? The best place to start to embrace your fear to start with the fears of what we already have in life, change, success, failure, and rejection.
FACT – just about all our fears in life are based on some extreme worst-case scenario created in our minds. These fears are never realized or could ever really happen, but they have control over our lives. It only when you embrace your fears that you realize the unrealistic nature of your fears.
How to Beat your Fears
To embrace your fears might seem like a daunting task. In reality, it is not. Whether you use self-help books or personal development seminars, the process is straightforward.
Figure Out What They Are
We have many little fears, all of which are attached to a past event that we did not like at all. But as we have seen, they are often not based on reality, just in our imagination. So, make a list of your own. It doesn’t matter how many you have. Just put them on paper so you can start scratching them off one by one. Embrace your fears on paper first.
Start at the Bottom
Most likely, you have listed them in order of priority, which means that your worst fear is right on top of the list. Great, because beating your fears is just like anything else in life. It would help if you got used to the process before you get proficient at it. So, embrace your fears, starting with the smallest fear first, starting at the bottom, and practicing embracing this fear till you conquer it.
Take it Easy at First.
If you like, you can get a therapist or counselor to help you out with the process, but the steps are easy. Create a controlled environment where you can face the fear without too much anxiety. This is important for two reasons. Firstly, you will get a clearer understanding of why you have this fear as you go through the process. Secondly, you need to get used to the process of facing your fears so that you can conquer them. Embrace your fears in the least anxious environment first, then take your strength into the world.
Be Real with Yourself
You are not going to get it right the first time. Not only are you facing your fears, but you are also trying a new process. So little mistakes will happen. This is OK. It is the best way to do it. If you sail through the process, you are not fully experiencing the fear and will have to do it again soon. Don’t skimp when you embrace your fears; you only must defeat them once correctly to live a better life.
To embrace your fears will not always be easy. As you move up the list, you will have ever-increasing scenarios that you have to conquer. For example, if you fear public speaking, try to increase the stakes slowly and get some help from others. If you start by speaking in front of your family, then move to more challenging audiences, you might want to speak to a public speaker on some tips. Public speaking is a widespread fear, and most speakers have had to deal with it at some time in their lives. They will have great advice for you. Please do this for all your fears, find someone who already has beaten your fear, and find out how they did it.
Keep on Keeping On
Regardless of what fear you have, they limit you in some way. For the context of “Embrace your Fears,” we understand that these fears are holding you back from something that you might want to do or achieve. To embrace your fears, you need to be just a little persistent and keep on doing the work. If you follow the process and start small, you will quickly build up the confidence you need to carry on the process and conquer even the biggest of your fears.
You are not Your Fears.
The most important thing to remember is that you are not your fears. They are just temporary obstacles that you conquer when you embrace your fears. You are more than just a few simple little fears. You are a human being; you have a voice that needs to be heard in the world. Regardless of your profession, skillset, or ambitions, you can achieve them if you take conscious steps towards your goals.
Black Sheep Community
One of the best ways to embrace your fears and integrate them until they are part of your being is by surrounding yourself with positive people that share your outlook on life. Life is for living, and you need to be at your best to get the best out of it. So, joining a group of like-minded people will help you embrace your fears and achieve your dreams.
Whether you want to change your local community or affect change on a global scale, conquering your fears is the first step. This simple guide will give you the first building blocks to take the steps that will help you embrace your fears, the fears that have been holding you back. Also, the encouragement of a community focused on creating lasting healthy changes in the world will be the perfect stimulus to getting you to where you want to be.
So, get up, embrace your fears with open arms and be all you can and want to be. One of the cardinal rules is that your fears can never change the person you are unless you let them. As you go through the process, you will see that you are not removing the fears from your life but making them part of your being. Once you integrate your fears, you will experience more inner power than ever before!