Assertive Personality- What is assertiveness?

Assertive Personality- What is assertiveness?

A person with an assertive personality has a Self-assured and self-conscious temperament. There is a great variety of temperaments and personalities, which exist in human behavioral psychology. Such a kind of self-assurance in temperament and character resultantly produces the best kind of leaders for a nation. However, imperfection does exist in human nature. No one can claim complete perfection or adoption of certain highly ranked behavior in communication.

To make mistakes is human, and thus, humans may possess some chunks of personality traits in either type of personality. One of the misconceptions regarding the adoption of an assertive personality is that a person is born confident and assertive. That is surely a myth, as the traits of the assertive personality can be adopted over some time through tremendous efforts. However, some of the traits of an assertive personality do exist since birth in a person. Historically and observingly, this type of disposition is quite helpful in communication and negotiation.

Historically prominent people such as Pablo Picasso, Franklin D. Roosevelt, Lyndon Johnson, Indira Gandhi are all exemplary examples of assertive personalities in history. An assertive personality possesses a common set of chief characteristics that might vary from one person to another. But the major characteristics include:

Self-Assured, self-acquainted, self-conscious:

A person with an assertive personality knows their strengths and weaknesses. Their self-introspection strengthens their potential to cover up their weaknesses.   They are never a victim of manipulation because of their awareness regarding themselves. Neither they are naïve enough to become a victim of someone’s boasting or buttering to take advantage of their strengths manipulatively. A person with an assertive personality has the caliber of gauging and scrutinizing themselves constantly. They spent a major chunk of their time on self-introspection.

The exploration and discoveries of self-interests make them more consistent and persistent in their pursued motives. They remain conscious of their conscience and never inhibit their intuitive calls from inside. He/she knows the inner click and can distinguish between right and wrong. Whereas, a person with a passive or aggressive personality hardly spares time for self-introspection. Those other personalities easily get distracted and messed up with their burning desires of pursuing aims and motives in life.

A person with an assertive personality knows well regarding the attainment of chasing dreams peacefully. Their self-acquainted nature makes them more inclined and determined when focusing on their dreams. For this reason, the self-introspected and self-confident stay calm and peaceful in pursuing their ambitions.

Assertive Personality holder as Effective communicators:

Assertive personality holders are effective communicators. The effectiveness of communication can be gauged from their eloquence of speech in communication. They never fall into unnecessary fights while arguing with a person. Their effectiveness can be gauged from the level of their utmost intelligence when pursuing a person in an argument. An aggressive person can become an easy victim of fights and disagreements.

Whereas, an assertive person maintains respect and boundaries when dealing with a personal grudge. It has been seen in aggressive people’s conversation that the parties fall into disagreements and fights over petty discussions. On the contrary, an assertive person has the intrinsic qualities of maintaining good relations besides arguing for personal rights. The relations of such a self-confident person grow rather than reaching a breaking point.

It has been seen in aggressive and passive personalities’ communication level, that the corresponding party is always disappointed with their favors. Whereas, an assertive person maintains their individuality after availing the benefits out of relations and communication. People never remain disappointed in such self-confident personalities.

Respectful toward self-rights and other’s rights:

An assertive person is always just regarding other rights as well as his/her rights. They are well acquainted and familiarized with other’s rights. Besides this, their persuasion and efforts towards getting their rights are made peacefully. The self-rights are availed in a manner that none of the other’s rights are snatched. An assertive personality always avoids those shortcuts of getting their due share of rights done by a manipulative personality.

They accept and value other’s rights and shares. The negligence toward other rights is not given by them unconsciously. Likewise, an assertive personality makes efforts to assist and support a weaker person by pursuing his/her rights in an upright manner. Resultantly, people around a person with an assertive personality never keep a grudge or grievances against him/her. The dealings are done so well on behalf of them, that the people are happily convinced to deliver the due right and share of such a self-confident personality. The persuasion of their rights is never done aggressively by an asserter.

In a nutshell, an assertive personality has an upright attitude of convincing and pursuing their goals without offending anyone. Relationships of such people always have the quality of maintaining boundaries. A healthy relationship is one that sets boundaries of respect and space. Thus, a person with an assertive personality has the desired quality of maintaining boundaries with other people. Likewise, not only do they remain aware of his/her rights, but they also /she accepts and validates other’s rights in an upright manner.

Their feelings and thoughts are so eloquently expressed that the correspondent is not offended easily. The individuality and self-respect of such people always remain intact while demanding his/her rights from others. Though a passive person equally or more likely tends to sacrifice his/her need for others, still the acceptance and self-esteem of the assertive personality holder are more attractive to the people. In the same way, such a confident person can gain prominence among people for their highly professional emotional response toward others. Thus, an assertive personality can maintain respect in dealings and relationships.

I want to change the world – now what?

I want to change the world – now what?

This is a very common question that where to start when you realize that ‘I want to change the world’.

Have you ever felt trapped by the world around you? Have you ever looked around and thought, ‘this just isn’t right, or this needs to change’? If your answer to either of those questions was yes, then please continue reading. Personally, there has been a lot of scenarios in my life where I have witnessed something unjust that angered me and riled me up. It made me so mad that I had to sit there and do nothing while the world runs in chaos. I wanted to do something, but I just couldn’t. I felt paralyzed. So I decided to do something about it.

How and why do I want to change the world?

First off, before we get into how we need to start with the why, why do you want to change the world? Will you only benefit from it? If your answer to the latter is yes. Then stop right there. Your motives for changing the world aren’t right. When wanting to change something, it’s important to make sure you are changing it to properly and not make things worse. Therefore, before you start, you need to ensure that by doing what you are doing, you aren’t harming anyone around you and that this decision will benefit many people and not just yourself.

Now that we got that out of the way let’s talk about the reason why you are all here. How am I going to change the world? Let me start by saying that it isn’t going to be easy, far from it. But it would help if you started somewhere. There are a lot of people that won’t support you, and at times, it will feel like you aren’t making any progress or that this project isn’t heading anywhere. But the key here is commitment and perseverance. Because if you aren’t prepared to fail multiple times or run into a ton of objects along the road, then you just aren’t fit for this.

The main steps needed to carry out your dreams

Your first step is going to be setting a goal of having a vision of what you want. I find mind mapping to be a great way of building any idea from a few words to a fully-fledged idea. Mind mapping will allow you to sort through the mess of thoughts in your head and turning them into coherent steps.

Once you have a clear vision of what you want to do, you are going to need a platform to spread a said idea and find like-minded people to support your idea forward. The black sheep community is a great example of that we wanted to change people’s views on people considered as outcasts, so we made this website to find like-minded people and share our thoughts on topics we wanted to discuss. Your platform could be online like on (twitter, LinkedIn, a website, Instagram, Facebook. Tik Tok, YouTube, and the list goes on), or it could be by hosting seminars and lectures. Whichever way you decide to share your message, the most important thing is that you do it.

This process may take months; it may take years. But if you are passionate enough about your ideas, then, in the end, they will persevere. Be patient. You can’t change the world overnight.

“Dreams are lovely. But they are just dreams. Fleeting, ephemeral, pretty. But dreams do not come true just because you dream them. It’s hard work that makes things happen. It’s hard work that creates change.” – Shonda Rhimes

It’s all about the little things to change the world

Changing the world doesn’t have to be this intricate and complex process. You can change the world by performing very simple yet very effective actions that would create a huge impact in the long run.

Be kind

this may seem like a very repetitive request or even considered a cliché, but you have no idea how much of a change it can cause. A simple compliment could completely turn a stranger’s day around. A warm smile could put a smile on others’ faces. It’s the small acts of kindness that matter in the end.

Mind your business

That sentence may seem a little blunt, but it something that needed to be said. Something I’ve noticed all around the world is people incessant need to stick their noses in what doesn’t involve them. People love to judge all those around them. Here’s some advice that would make you a happier person in the long run; leave people be, let everyone be who they want to be. As long as no one is hurting, you leave them alone and let them live their lives.

Fix your schedule

A lot of the time, we feel like our life is spiraling out of control, and we feel like we have no idea what we are doing, and that’s completely normal. You aren’t expected to have your life put together at all times. Planning out your day, week, or year is very helpful. I would help you sort through all those thoughts in your mind.

How to tell your story? How can you engage someone in your story?

How to tell your story? How can you engage someone in your story?

I feel like it’s been known universally that to tell your story, you need to check at least one of the following boxes; a traumatic past, you’re a celebrity, or you have a success story. Well, I’m here to tell you that you don’t need any of these things. Telling your story doesn’t necessarily mean reciting your life events chronologically. It could be you explaining a realization that you have come upon, it could be explaining your journey into becoming the person you are now, no matter how mundane you feel your story is.

Because no matter how insignificant your story is, it’s still completely different from anyone else’s story; there are no two people that have lived the same life. Sure, there will be some similarities in there. But in this case, these similarities will aid you, you are most likely going to have similarities with at least a few million people, these similarities will be the thread the connects you to your readers, when people see themselves in your story they will relate to it personally, and that will have a much bigger impact.

How to tell your story?

Now let’s discuss how you are going to tell your story. Firstly, you are going to need to get a piece of paper. On this piece of paper, I am going to need you to answer each question with at least a paragraph:

  1. What is(are) the most significant moment(s) in your life?
  2. Which person/ people had the biggest effect on your life, whether positively or negatively?
  3. Do you want to tell your story chronologically and talk about all points in your life, or do you have one certain point in your life that you want to discuss?
  4. Who is going to be your audience; adults, teens, children, or all three?

After doing so, you need to start planning out or outlining your novel. You could do it yourself, or you can get the assistance of someone. May I also remind you that if you feel that you aren’t as good in writing as you could be or if you feel that writing a book is a task you can’t handle, don’t fret! You can still tell your story; all you have to do is employ a writer to write your book for you or help you write your book. Many people have had others write their autobiographies. Do not feel let down by the fact that you aren’t fully writing it yourself. There is no shame in it. After all, that writer’s name will also be on the book cover adjacent to yours.

Another very helpful thing to do is to catch up on your reading. The more you read, the smoother your writing will flow. It will feel natural even enjoyable instead of it being an exhausting task. Reading autobiographies or biographies would help. It’s important to note that when doing so, you shouldn’t try to mimic the content in those books, but instead, you should pay close attention to the structure and format of the book and how the author tackles certain topics.

Be vulnerable 

Writing your story wouldn’t only benefit, but it would benefit you as well. Being able to talk about your life in such an open manner is such a brave thing to do. Very few people have it within them to open themselves to the whole world, and that in itself would strengthen your personality as well as your self-esteem. It takes guts to be vulnerable, but it’s what makes us human. 

The biggest problem when reading some people’s stories is that they try to put up this front that masks their actual emotions; instead, this front resembles perfection. Hence people start believing that they are at fault for having off days or feeling vulnerable. Therefore, your book should be honest and raw; that’s what is going to attract people. People need something to connect to and eventually idolize. They don’t need a picture-perfect life that they find intimidating. It’s normal to have off days or weeks or even of years, and that should be normalized in your writing.

Now my point from this whole article is to tell you that if you have a story, you need to tell it and worry about all its antics and details later on. Your story could inspire many others.

” There is something in us, as storytellers and as listeners to stories, that demands the redemptive act, that demands that what falls at least be offered the chance to be restored. The reader of today looks for this motion, and rightly so, but what he has forgotten is the cost of it. His sense of evil is diluted or lacking altogether, and so he has forgotten the price of restoration. When he reads a novel, he wants either his sense tormented or his spirits raised. He wants to be transported, instantly, either to mock damnation or a mock innocence.”

 ― Flannery O’Connor

What is conventional wisdom, and where did it originate from?

What is conventional wisdom, and where did it originate from?

To most people, the term ‘conventional wisdom’ is familiar to them because of john Kenneth Galbraith’s book, The Affluent Society, published in 1958. According to Galbraith, this wisdom was something that affected the adoption of new ideas. 

“It will be convenient to have a name for the ideas which are esteem at any time for their acceptability. And it should be a term that emphasizes this predictability. I shall refer to these ideas henceforth as conventional wisdom. “

– John Kenneth Galbraith

However, conventional wisdom has been around since 1800, 1838 to be exact. Several authors previous to Galbraith have used the term in their work. Sometimes, it was used in a neutral or positive sense but most times it was used for criticism. Nonetheless, previous authors used it as a synonym for ‘commonplace knowledge’. While Galbraith added ‘the’ to the phrase to demonstrate its individuality and improved upon its meaning to narrow it to those commonplace beliefs that are also accepted by society’s standards and comforts. Hence, further augmenting their ability to withstand facts that might weaken them. He repeatedly referred to it throughout the text of The Affluent Society, invoking it to explain the high degree of resistance in academic economics to new ideas. For these reasons, he is usually credited with the invention and popularization of the phrase in modern usage.

Conventional wisdom refers to all the conventional ideas and professional opinions that are commonly true. This type of wisdom is the type that most people are likely to agree upon, excluding a few exceptions here and there. People use it to make everyday decisions. Whenever new ideas arise in society, people compare said ideas to conventional wisdom before deeming them correct. In other words, consider conventional wisdom as the base ideologies of any society.

Why conventional wisdom sometimes is not useful?

As the years passed we have begun to notice the faults of conventional wisdom. And that it should only be used in a certain situation- which we will discuss later on. However, you need to be aware that going against Conventional wisdom would affect your social image and may even result in social ostracism, job loss, and severed relationships. That being said you should always go with what your gut tells you and stick to your beliefs. You shouldn’t do something you don’t believe is right just because everyone else is doing it.

However, sometimes society’s words drown your thoughts and beliefs. Hence making you doubt yourself as well as every minor decision you make. If you ever feel lost or unsure about the rationality of your decision, talking to someone who is an expert on thought development is very helpful. By doing so, they will help you evaluate your thoughts and determine their root source, whether they’re from society or your mind. Then if you aren’t pleased with your thoughts and thought process, they’ll help you think of something that suits you. You might find a variety of people with whom to discuss your troubling ideas. One opportunity you have is to talk to a licensed counselor for this or other mental health issues. You can engage in online therapy at the time that works best for you. 

When is conventional wisdom beneficial to us?

Sometimes you find yourself in situations where there is conventional wisdom in abundance. Some of these situations are:

  1. When you are in a rush to make a minor decision and don’t have time to come up with or learn about new ideas, conventional wisdom would be your best option as it won’t be frowned upon in society.
  2. When you require everyone’s approval.
  3. And When considering all the other options, conventional wisdom remains the truest.
15 funny leadership quotes that will make you laugh like a child

15 funny leadership quotes that will make you laugh like a child

Keep you serious quotes aside, we are going to discuss funny leadership quotes here.

When you are starting a new business as a leader or have been a leader for a while, people feel the need to throw advice your way whenever given the chance. And yes, said advice may be beneficial most times but other times it’s just repetitive and tedious. Therefore, I have incorporated a list of funny leadership quotes that will give you advice and a good laugh at the same time:

  • “The old adage ‘people are our greatest asset’ is wrong; ‘the right people are your greatest asset’ is more accurate.”

-Jim Collins

  • “Don’t waste your energy trying to educate or change opinions; go over, under, through, and opinions will change organically when you’re the boss. Or they won’t.”

-Tina Fey

  • “The question who ought to be boss is like who ought to be the tenor in the quartet? Obviously, the man who can sing tenor.”

-Henry Ford

  • “Leadership consists of nothing but taking responsibility for everything that goes wrong and giving your subordinates credit for everything that goes well.”

-Dwight D. Eisenhower

  • “It is a terrible thing to look over your shoulder when you are trying to lead — and find no one there.”

-Franklin Roosevelt

  • “In most cases being a good boss means hiring talented people and then getting out of their way.”

-Tina Fey- Funny leadership quotes

  • “It is a well-known fact that those people who must want to rule people are, ipso facto, those least suited to do it… anyone who is capable of getting themselves made President should on no account be allowed to do the job.”

-Douglas Adams

  • “There are two kinds of people, those who do the work and those who take the credit. Try to be in the first group; there is less competition there.”

-Indira Gandhi

  • “Success in almost any field depends more on energy and drive than it does on intelligence. This explains why we have so many stupid leaders.”

-Sloan Wilson

  • “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

– Mark Twain

  • “Never tell people how to do things. Tell them what to do and they will surprise you with their ingenuity.”

-George S. Patton

  • “Never follow someone else’s path unless you’re in the woods and you’re lost and you see a path then by all means you should follow that.”

-Ellen Degeneres

  • “But the fact that some geniuses were laughed at does not imply that all who are laughed at are geniuses. They laughed at Columbus, they laughed at Fulton, they laughed at the Wright brothers. But they also laughed at Bozo the Clown.”

-Carl Sagan

  • “When I talk to managers, I get the feeling that they are important. When I talk to leaders, I get the feeling that I am important.”

-Alexander den Heijer

  • A man who wants to lead the orchestra must turn his back on the crowd.

-Max Lucado

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